I am Being Bullied

Dear WISY,

There is a group of girls who are trying everything in their power to destroy me.  They told my boyfriend that I'm cheating on him, they send me ghost messages on Facebook saying I'm ugly and I stink and they have gone as far as to call my mother's workplace to tell her that I am a slut and listed names of men that I am sexing.  I'm not doing any of the things they say I am doing and I have asked them to stop but they are continuing to bully me.  

I hate going to school now because everybody believes what they've been saying and they threaten to beat me every day.  I walk alone and don't have anyone to talk to anymore.  I'm fed up of feeling like this.  Why won't these girls leave me alone?  I didn't do anything to them.  How do I make all of this stop? 

Signed, 
Bullied

WISY's Response:

Dear Bullied,

I can't tell you how angry this makes me.  On a whole, I am extremely disappointed with the youth of today and their obsession with bullying.  These bullies go to great lengths to destroy characters and demolish self esteem.  Something is seriously wrong and I hope as a society, we can figure it out and fix it soon!  Just keep in mind that there isn't anything wrong with you.  It is the people who choose to destroy another that have serious issues.

With that said, I'm happy you've reached out for help and I will advise you the best way I can.  First, what have your parents done about all of this?  You stated that the girls called your mother's place of employment but you didn't say what her response was to the call so I'm going to assume, since you are writing me, her response hasn't helped your situation.  Revisit the issue again with your mom and explain that the bullying has gone beyond the call to her and has now trickled down into your social and academic life.  Tell her how you feel and hopefully, this will make her become more involved.

Secondly, you need to report these girls to your school's administration and request meetings with your school counselor as well.  This may result in face to face meetings with you, your parents, the girls, and their parents.  Hopefully, the girls will be held accountable for their actions and you can resume your studies without worrying about being bullied.

I'm really sorry you have to go through this.  Again, just know that there is nothing wrong with you and you do not deserve to be bullied.  I know you will overcome this and become a phenomenal woman!

Here are a few resources that can help you with your situation:

http://www.stompoutbullying.org/

http://www.endcyberbullying.org/cyberbullying-prevention/cyberbullying-prevention-for-teens/

www.stopbullying.gov/

http://www.nea.org/home/neabullyfree.html

Walk good,
#TeamWISY