Dear WISY,
I want to start by saying
that I by no means promote or condone domestic violence but there are cases
where I feel a man hitting a woman is necessary and in more cases than we would
like to admit, it is self- defense.
I am in a relationship with
an older woman and she tends to physically assault me whenever I do or say
something that doesn’t go along her guidelines.
I try so hard but it isn’t enough I guess.
The other day I gave her
a hefty uppercut which caused her nose to bleed and she said one of her teeth
chipped. I did it because I lost
control. I couldn’t stand her slapping
me anymore. Now, she is holding it over
my head saying that she will report me if I don’t do everything she demands.
Right now, I’m living a
life of misery.
What should I do?
Signed,
Miserable Man
Dear MM,
ReplyDeleteYou should exit stage left immediately.
While it is no secret that women can be just as physically aggressive as their male counterparts, men, due to their often-times greater stature and strength, tend to cause the most damage as you are probably now aware.
You have a domestically violent relationship; by your letter, you have experienced intimate partner violence. You should have reported it at the time.
You alone can determine whether or not you want to salvage the relationship and get counseling to improve the way you both handle stress and aggression. However, at this time, for your safety and for hers, it is best you leave without looking back. Do not announce you are leaving, else the opportunity for you to reconsider will appear.
Leave. Get your life in order. When you are emotionally and mentally ready, you will be able to engage with a woman who is far less controlling and abusive and you will be able to respond to her without being controlling or abusive.
Walk Good,
#Team WISY
PS – GET OUT NOW
First the upper cut, then the knife..before one end up dead, and the other in jail, leave har!
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