My girlfriend and I have been arguing a lot lately. She has a habit of making a big deal out of nothing. Her latest gripe is because of a female coworker calling me after work hours to get some advice about her relationship from a man's perspective.
I told her the woman was just in need of some help and that there's nothing going on. She was still mad and said she doesn't understand why I can't see that it's inappropriate.
So, is it wrong for me to have platonic relationships with women? I feel like she's being too insecure.
What's your take?
Signed,
Fed Up
Dear Fed Up,
"Dance ah yaad before you dance abroad". The energy that you're willing to use to provide relationship advice for another woman should be directed to your own relationship.
Imagine your woman having arguments with you and then seeing you taking the time to be understanding and invested in another's relationship.
The issue isn't having platonic relationships with the opposite sex. The issue is your failure to see that your girlfriend's "big deal" issues are being minimized while somebody else's woman can access your time and energy for their "big deal".
If you guys are arguing more frequently, then there is an underlying issue that you both are dancing around. Commit to resolving the issue if the relationship is worth it to you. Listen to each other, broaden your perspective, and lead with love always. Some couples therapy would help too.
Tell your coworker to hit me up if she needs advice - you're busy. 😉
Walk good,
#TeamWIsy🌴
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