Dear WISY,
Please hide my identity. I'm 25 years old and a graduate. I'm in a serious relationship. We've dated for 6 months now and each time I ask my guy when he intends to make plans for our marriage, he keeps telling me probably in 2 to 3 years. I understand that he doesn't have money now, and I had intentions to wait for him until he makes money, but my problem is that he might change his mind in the near future.
I met a man recently through a friend, he's 37 and wants a serious relationship with me and we want to get to know each other for a while before we proceed with the marriage. I'm ready to move on with this other man, but my only problem is I don't know how to tell my guy that I'm not interested anymore since he isn't ready. I don't want to be tied down to avoid regrets in the future. Please, I need advice.
N/B: My other guy is in his finals in the university though he spilled and has an extra year. He wants to finish school first and come back from service before the marriage.
Signed,
How Do I Tell Him?
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WISY's Advice:
Dear HDITH,
Wow! It's only been 6 months! 2 to 3 years is a reasonable time period, if you ask me. Your guy's plan is logical and responsible. I think you may be jumping ship prematurely. However, with that said, I understand that cultural differences may influence your haste to walk down the aisle.
You should explain your problem to your current guy in the same manner that you were able to express it to me. There's no need to butter it up or water it down. He deserves to know that you have already set your sights on someone else, so the sooner you tell him this, the better. You are also deserving of a relationship in which you feel content. You guys aren't on the same page. It makes no sense to continue.
You should explain your problem to your current guy in the same manner that you were able to express it to me. There's no need to butter it up or water it down. He deserves to know that you have already set your sights on someone else, so the sooner you tell him this, the better. You are also deserving of a relationship in which you feel content. You guys aren't on the same page. It makes no sense to continue.
Walk good,
#TeamWISY
You want to get married that bad to the point you willing to move on because this new guy you met said he want a serious relationship.
ReplyDeleteDude can tell you anything until he get them cheeks... Yes, go ahead and leave your bf, so that he can find someone better and have the patients to know that marriage is not something that you don't just talk about and jump into. You just talkimg for 6month my girl.
Hmmm 6 months , why the rush to get married ? You and him are still getting to know each other. There's no way you can know a person completely in 6 months . Tell him the truth . As far as the other guy go relationships is like an interview your going to say the right things to get the job. Wish you all the best .....
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