My man is intimidated by my success. At first he said he loved the fact that I had all I needed and acquired it on my own. He loved it when we took trips to places he'd never been and he loved the clothes, the events and everything else that came with dating a successful woman.
A few months ago he started asking about children and if I had any intentions of having a family with him. I told him I wasn't ready to start a family and I wanted to work towards increasing my net-worth before taking a break to raise a family.
His response was not at all what I expected and he began insulting me about the very things he initially admired me for. He says I'm too bossy, too stubborn/strong headed etc. He has made mention of leaving me and finding a woman who is humble and not afraid to allow a man to be a man.
I'm so thrown off by his behavior. I don't understand how he could switch his views on me. After all, I never said I wouldn't start a family. I simply stated that I wasn't ready. Where's the crime in that?
Signed,
Not Ready
WISY REPSONSE:
ReplyDeleteDear Not Ready,
It’s tough being involved in a relationship when you and your significant other are not on the same page. This should provoke thought within you that will determine which direction is best for you. This situation is a common scenario. Men often preach about wanting women who are individuals and are able to stand on their own two feet if need be but what they deeply desire is a woman who seemingly needs them and gives them the opportunity to display their manhood. Since (from what I gather) you are the financial leader in the relationship, he may desire to display his leadership in other aspects and what better way than the bare naturalness of a man planting his seed within woman. He can proudly watch as you transform into the mother of his child knowing that he is the cause.
On the other hand, I can understand your stance as well. There is absolutely nothing wrong with striving for better in your life. Keep pushing for what you want until you are content. I’m all for that but do not get so caught up in chasing the almighty dollar that you miss the opportunities to enjoy the natural and simple things life has to offer; such things as starting a family with the man you love.
Hopefully, you two can come to a compromise and together build a life that is satisfactory to you both.
Walk good,
#TeamWISY