My Child Is Deaf and My Man Is Mad

Dear WISY,

I hope you will post this to your blog and give me some sound advice about my situation.  Last year, I gave birth to a beautiful baby girl.  Her father and I were very excited about her birth and prepared like excited first time parents should.  Everything was perfect until she entered the world.  She was born deaf and my boyfriend has since changed his attitude towards me and sadly towards her also.  He said that there was something wrong with me and that’s why our baby came out with a defect.  He is really upset with me and barely speaks to me anymore.  He has a hard time being around our daughter.  He seems upset and frustrated all the time.  It’s so bad that I am afraid to leave her alone with him out of fear of what he might do.  

I am to the point where I have had enough and want to leave the relationship.  I don’t want my daughter to grow with a father who doesn’t love her because she is deaf.  My daughter thrives in every aspect of life and I know her deafness will not hinder her from becoming a model citizen.  I know you are probably saying that I know what I need to do and I should leave but when I thought of my future as a child, I never thought of having multiple fathers for my children and I am ready for another baby.  He is also willing to try again for a baby with zero issues.  What do you think I should do?

Signed,

Mother of a Deaf Child