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Dear WISY,
I've been lying to my boyfriend about being a virgin. We have been an item for 8 months and he really wants to have sex but I told him we should wait until marriage. He agrees but sometimes he gets naughty and wants to have me and I am so tempted to give it to him.
The reason I am lying is because every time I have sex with a guy he leaves me high and dry. I have never been intimate with someone and they stay afterwards. I don't even get a reply to my text messages. It really hurts and I'm really confused about this.
I fear losing my boyfriend because I really love him and I am sure he loves me. I think a marriage will make him think twice before leaving and there is no way he can ignore me after we have sex when we're married. If there is something wrong with me, I hope he will tell me what it is.
I have studied videos and books to be a good lover so I don't know what is wrong and like I said before, the other guys will not even answer a text message after they get what they want so I never got an opportunity to find out.
What do you think I should do to make sure he doesn't leave me after we have sex?
Signed,
Fake Virgin
WISY's Advice:
Dear Fake Virgin,
And when your wedding night comes and it's time to consummate the marriage and your husband is expecting to unwrap your untouched box for the first time and then realizes that you've been lying, what do you think will happen? That sort of deceit will get your marriage annulled faster than your ex lovers could get their pants back on.
Stop the lying and tell him that you've been dishonest because of your past experiences. Tell him that you value the relationship and don't want anything hindering the emotional connection between you two. Maybe after your conversation, you'll feel confident enough to get intimate with him.
You could have had behavioral patterns which attracted the type of man to hit it and quit it or it could just be that your ex lovers were not the right fit for you - literally! You may want to look into vaginal wall exercises and techniques for tightening. Also, ensure that your personal hygiene is impeccable. I'm not insinuating that you lack in these areas but want to check all the items off the list that I could think of that would cause men to stop communicating with you right after sex.
In any case, you're in a serious relationship now and your boyfriend obviously loves you with the absence of sex. Once you become intimate with him, it should just be a bonus and not a deal breaker but you must be honest with him. Withholding your virginity news could put some serious cracks in the foundation you have built with him.
Walk good,
#Team WISY
Signed,
Fake Virgin
Dear Fake Virgin,
And when your wedding night comes and it's time to consummate the marriage and your husband is expecting to unwrap your untouched box for the first time and then realizes that you've been lying, what do you think will happen? That sort of deceit will get your marriage annulled faster than your ex lovers could get their pants back on.
Stop the lying and tell him that you've been dishonest because of your past experiences. Tell him that you value the relationship and don't want anything hindering the emotional connection between you two. Maybe after your conversation, you'll feel confident enough to get intimate with him.
You could have had behavioral patterns which attracted the type of man to hit it and quit it or it could just be that your ex lovers were not the right fit for you - literally! You may want to look into vaginal wall exercises and techniques for tightening. Also, ensure that your personal hygiene is impeccable. I'm not insinuating that you lack in these areas but want to check all the items off the list that I could think of that would cause men to stop communicating with you right after sex.
In any case, you're in a serious relationship now and your boyfriend obviously loves you with the absence of sex. Once you become intimate with him, it should just be a bonus and not a deal breaker but you must be honest with him. Withholding your virginity news could put some serious cracks in the foundation you have built with him.
Walk good,
#Team WISY
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ReplyDeleteSounds as if she something no too good if man ah slam and left...
ReplyDeleteUmmm, ma'am, umm is it possible that you can do a survey of at least 3 of your past partners cause sumn not right. But frfr, marriage is not gonna make a man stay if he's not committed. Get yourself together and stop being dishonest and start getting proactive. It could just be that you were dealing with punk ass chauncies who just wanted to hit it and quit it.
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