He Has Changed Since We've Said 'I Do'

 Dear WIsy,

Please keep me anonymous.  I have been having issues with my husband since we became married two months ago.  While we were dating, he was nothing like this.  When we moved in together, he was nothing like this.  My husband has become the most bitter and miserable person I've ever met.  I've asked him what the issue was and he told me that he was just in a different mood since becoming my husband.  He has not explained what that means properly to me, so I am confused. Last night, he slept on the couch and left me alone in our bedroom.  I don't know what I'm supposed to do.  I feel like my marriage has failed before even starting.

My mother told me that I must be doing something wrong for him to have changed overnight but my father said that something is wrong with my husband.  My dad said I should probably have my husband checked by a psychiatrist.  I'm just so lost and confused.  What do you think the issue could be?

Signed,

Just Married

WIsy's Response:

Dear Just Married,

So sorry that things have changed for the worst since your nuptials.  It's difficult to tell what's going on but it seems like your husband may be overwhelmed/anxious or depressed because of something.  Have a conversation with him again.  Ask him specific questions to see if you can get to the root of all this.  For example:  instead of asking "What's the issue?" ask "Are you feeling down because of xyz?".  Hopefully, that will prompt him to be transparent.  I think it's wise to take your father's advice and have him see a professional.  He may need mental support. 

Take good care of yourself through this process.  This type of change in behavior from your spouse can negatively impact you in a number of ways.  I wish you both the best.

Walk good,

#TeamWIsy🌴