I've been with my man for 12 years and I am tired of the situation we're in. My man is married and I always have to play second fiddle, but I'm the one he loves. His wife just has the money from her family inheritance. They live in a big house with a pool and nice cars They also own a restaurant in downtown (location withheld).
I want him for me. I told him to divorce her and get alimony because he stays home with the kids so he can easily get custody of those boys. I told him I'm giving him until the end of June to tell her or else I'm telling everything.
I've been pregnant 3 times. One time I miscarried, and the other times I had an abortion. I want to have his child now and his wife is stopping us from being happy. I went to my friend who said she could help me but she took my money and nothing happened. I just want him for myself now and I'm tired of hiding for 12 years. Do u think I'm wrong?
He said he's going to leave her but he's been saying that for years. I'm a smart woman so I know he's just stringing me along but do you think he will eventually follow my advice? I want to know if I should start messing with these men who want me badly. Please tell me if I should start f*#!@ these other men with money and forget about love.
Regards,
Sidey
WISY's Response:
I get letters like this one from time to time and I often wonder what your lovers are doing to make you settle for second place, especially in your case of 12 years. I honestly would like to know. Are you also reaping the benefits of the family money?
Anyway, let's move on. Do I think he will eventually follow your advice? Why should he? He's had you at his disposal for 12 years, he doesn't owe you anything, you don't have children with him, and you don't have the perks to offer like his wife does. Plus, who's to say he's not in love with her? Maybe he's just been saying that he doesn't just like he's been saying that he's going to leave her for you. Wise up, "smart woman". He's not going to leave his wife.
It's best you move on quietly. Give yourself some time to accept that the relationship is over and then find a man to have a truly committed relationship with. I'm sorry it took you this long to realize that you should consider the other men, but don't let money be your driving force. Engage these men with intentions to love and have an open and honest relationship with - free from all the extracurricular drama.
Walk good,
#TeamWISY
Is you stupid, or is you dumb? You only think you're smart but this whole things smells of retardation. Congratulations, you've been playing yourself for over a decade. You win the Stupid Side Chick Olympics,gold medalist 12 years running. Your 1st error was thinking that woman's husband was YOUR man. He's not. Your 2nd error was believing that he doesn't want his woman. He doesn't want YOU and he's been SHOWING you that for 12 years. Trust a man's actions over his words any day of the week. You sound like a careless woman so go on and follow Wisy's advice. God go wid yuh, cau mi nah go.
ReplyDeleteNot too smart and if he doesn't leave her you will tell it all if you cant be happy no one will be happy that means you really don't love him. I think you are now obsess with the fact that you have been with a man for 12 years and you have not been able to get him for yourself and the love has turned into revenge or frustration and it's now all about just getting him just to prove that you are the one he really loves. Cut your losses move on cry if you have to take time to deal with the situation but get out because there's no future there for you
ReplyDeleteI have a solution for you. Get with the man wit money who really wants you, then make the married man your second fiddle. That way, you both have a rich spouse and each other on the side. Don't make situation worse by telling everything if he doesn't leave his wife. Nothing positive would come out of that. Shut your ass and move on. Having a side chuck is not easy, especially for 12 years. If you don't believe me, try to get with one of the guys who want you and still continue with the married man and see how you can keep it up.
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