I've been a side chick for the past 5 years, and I read your letter today and got angry. Sometimes men are trapped by guilt and don't want to leave their wives because of kids, but they really do love the side woman.
My man cries every single night when he has to go back home. He doesn't even have sex with his wife. He loves me and I love him but sometimes people who are in love can't be together. It's not always black and white so stop trying to speak for the men who have side chicks. He could really love her.
Being a side chick has its ups and downs but I'm happy with my man and I know where he his if he isn't with me - most of you all can't say that. Because he knows I'm holding on even though he's married I get lots of gifts. I just got a new Benz so stay over there and keep judging me while I'm sitting pretty.
Signed,
#TeamSideChick!
WISY's Response:
Dear #TSC,
I see I've struck a nerve. I appreciate and welcome your letter. I'll use this opportunity to help you come to a realization.
So you're telling me that material items fill the void your man leaves when he goes home to his wife and children? I don't believe that. At some point you will need fulfillment on a spiritual level, and deep down inside I believe you have come to that realization, but are putting up this facade.
You stated that you got angry. That speaks volumes. You know you're on the short end of the stick and that letter was a reminder. You're probably disappointed in yourself and you may be afraid that you will never have the man you love in his entirety. I would be angry too. However, I would drive as far away as I could in that brand new Benz, disappear into the sunset and give thanks that I didn't hold on until it was too late.
I hope I've been a beacon of light for you. Besides, there are many men that can provide exclusivity and perks! Stop selling yourself short and hop on the #TeamWifey train! 😉
Walk good,
#TeamWISY
Side chick, side piece just sounds degrading and low rated. There's no dignity in being the woman on the side. When travelling, there's first class and coach, but being a side chick is like travelling with the luggage. Your place is to remain out of sight. I can understand a temporary fling or affair(which is like flying coach), but you're the spare tire that's kept in the trunk. You don't get to meet his real friends, family, no planned kids, no social media interactions, and all it takes is a Benz for you to stay in your lane. He went into his marriage and decided to have kids, now he feels trapped? Sounds like you need some holy water sprinkled on your head. Well, I don't want to mess up a good thing for the married guy, so do your thing and be a simple side hand wipe, let him put some milage on that body and enjoy those gifts. Don't worry, we married men love you girls..lol
ReplyDeleteTeam wifey train I love it. Both people are different 1st woman wants him to leave his wife this side chick here is content getting gifts which she deeds good but the joke is the crocodile tears he cries when he has to go home to his wife but he always goes home so funny and she believes that crap. If u r content being someones side thing u don't have to plead your case letting us know you get gifts u better be getting gifts. You don't want no man for yourself hope that full fills you it just might for now.
ReplyDeleteIf it's one thing I learned about being the side woman it's that you don't put your all into the man..u got to have a man to give you emotional support when hussy goes home to wifey...we can have out cake and eat it too.
ReplyDeleteGirl you act like Benz mean something...she have the husband and you have trinkets...go sit down and just be sitting down
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