I live in a very religious household. My parents have raised my sisters and me to have a strong faith in the Almighty God and I am very disgusted by what I have recently discovered. As a matter of fact, I despise my mother because of it. When I see her, I want to douse her body with acid. How could I say this about the woman who carried me for nine months and birthed me? I can say it because my mother has been unfaithful to my loving father. She has been involved with the pastor at our church and she visits him at night in his chambers. Just the thought of this makes me want to break my tablet but I will not do it because I saved a lot of money to purchase this for myself.
I made this discovery one night when I was being mischievous with my boyfriend. He is a secret and my father forbids me to have a lover but I cannot help the way my body is reacting to this boy’'s presence. He met me in the church yard one night because we thought for sure that no one would find us there. Instead we found my mother in the pastor'’s chambers straddling him. I was so embarrassed. I wanted to alert them but my boyfriend held me back and told me to think of the trouble we would be in if we were discovered. I listened to him.
Since then I have followed her at night when she said she is going for religious counsel and I have discovered that she has been doing this act for some time. The pastor is also married and I am also very upset with him. I would like to alert my father and the pastor'’s wife but I am not sure how I can do this. Do you suggest a method of doing this? I am so angry and ashamed.
Thank you.
Signed,
Ashamed Daughter
WISY's Response:
Dear Ashamed Daughter,
I can only imagine how difficult this discovery has been for you. Feelings of betrayal, anger, disgust and sorrow are probably weighing heavily on you right now.
Understand that the information you hold could ultimately break your family apart. Understand that there may be a long period of turmoil in your life if you reveal the truth to your father and the pastor's wife. I am not trying to discourage you from exposing the truth but I just want you to be prepared for what may follow. Your mother and pastor could also deny the allegations and you may be ridiculed and treated differently. Just be prepared for all outcomes if you decide to tell.
If I were in this situation, I would approach my mother and let her know that I am aware of her behavior and give her the opportunity to either stop the behavior or confess her adulterous habits (only you know what would be best in this situation). I would also request to have the family attend a different church.
Sometimes our parents teach us things in order to help guide us on the right path. However, it does not always mean our parents are taking their own advice. Ever hear the saying "Do as I say, not as I do"? Hypocrisy, I know.
Walk good,
#TeamWISY
This is disgusting! I am so sick of all these hypocrites in the church. I am not surprised by this sad to say.
ReplyDelete"You were about to engage in the same act as your mother with someone your parents are not aware of. Your behaviour and your mother's behaviour are both wrong. One is committing adultery, and the other was about to engage in an uncommitted sexual act. Before you confront your mother or inform your father, clean up your act. Let your mother know that you are aware of her infidelity. Without casting accusations, encourage her to discontinue the affair, speak to her husband (your father) hoping that they both can move on from this nightmare."
ReplyDeleteCannot imagine how degraded you felt maybe the feeling that you have for this boy was really a sign in disguise. Tell her you know everything and ask to break it off or else. .
ReplyDeleteLike mother, like daughter. U were forbidden, yet u r sneaking around with a boy. What is the difference between u two? Nothing! Young girl, go and study your school work and leave big people's business alone.
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